Bringing a new baby into the family is a joyous occasion, but it can also be a challenging time, especially when an older child feels left out or jealous. Recently, a fellow parent shared their experience of welcoming a premature baby while also managing the emotions of an older child who is struggling to cope with the changes. This situation is incredibly common and finding a balance can be tough.
When a new sibling arrives, especially if they need extra care like a premature baby, older children may feel neglected or worry that they’re no longer the centre of attention. It’s important to remember that these feelings are natural, and with the right support, your older child can adjust to the new family dynamic.
Occupational Therapy (OT) can be incredibly helpful in this situation, particularly if your older child has suspected or diagnosed conditions like Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). OT can provide strategies to help them express their feelings, cope with changes, and develop positive routines. For example, a therapist might suggest specific activities that you can do together to strengthen your bond or offer advice on how to create a sense of security and stability during this transition.
Additionally, setting aside dedicated one-on-one time, as one parent shared, is a great way to reassure your older child of your love and attention. Simple activities like going to the park, exploring nature, or just spending time playing together can make a big difference. However, it’s also important to be patient—adjustment takes time, and there will be ups and downs along the way.
Remember, seeking support from an Occupational Therapist, Counsellor, or support group can provide valuable tools and perspectives to help your family navigate this new chapter. You’re not alone in this journey, and with time, things will get better.
About the Author
Joanne Harries
Clinic Manager
Joanne is a friendly, positive, and outgoing Highly Specialist Paediatric Occupational Therapist & Sensory Integration Practitioner, with a real passion and drive for supporting children, young people and their families with everyday activities and challenges. Joanne Works in a professional manner at all times and it is her aim to make a difference to the lives of the individuals and families she supports.
Joanne has previously supported and help to set up Occupational Therapy services to; a children’s therapy company, secure setting for adults with complex needs, and specialist schools for Autism. Joanne’s experience of various diagnoses and working within teams of professionals also extends to complex behavioural difficulties.
Joanne has extensive experience of assessment and report writing, with a particular interest in assisting individuals, families, and Solicitors with SEN Tribunals. Joanne is available to provide assessment, consultancy and training to families, schools, Solicitors and parent support groups, remotely, in the South Wales clinic, across the UK and Internationally.
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